Read the whole thing. Sandra Tsing Loh is getting to the question: "Why do we still insist on marriage... isn’t the idea of lifelong marriage obsolete?"
Here's the accompanying — and perversely light-hearted — video.
And here's her "final piece of advice":
[A]void marriage — or you too may suffer the emotional pain, the humiliation, and the logistical difficulty, not to mention the expense, of breaking up a long-term union at midlife for something as demonstrably fleeting as love.There's something confusing about the structure of that sentence. What does "for... love" refer to? The reason for marrying or the reason for breaking up? She does say that she had an affair. Did she leave in absurd pursuit of love or was the original idea of marrying foolish?
Also, I detect a contradictory message in that advice. "Or you too may suffer..." Don't we — many of us, most of us — read that and think: Yes, bring on the emotions. I know that is what is involved, and I say "yes" to all that. You could just as well have said avoid life — or you too may suffer. But we revolt against the serenity of death.
I say that, and yet, for many years, for more than 20 years, I choose the serenity of the partnerless life. Still, if you ask me today, my "final piece of advice" is: When you think of what you might lose if you do something, remember to take account of what you might lose if you don't do it.